jscarbor is correct, Your Relative is refering to the fact that you can't recieve funds at closing acording to state law, but your agent can give you what ever money afterwards. It sounds like your relative is just along for the ride. You would have been better served by using an agent that would have worked for thier money and tried harder to get the best deal they could for you. Also even if the seller's actual agent had shown up to show you the property they would have desired the full 6% since you were using thier time. This is the purpose of having a buyers agent, and why the buyers agent recieves 3% compensation for showing the property or properties to you, then doing research into the subdivisions sales history to find out what a resonable offer is an what you can expect in price trends so you don't go into a house upside down on your mortgage, and then to do all your paper work and back and forth stuff between selling agent, loan officer and title company. It sound like your bad experiance with agents came from trying to split the work load instead of finding an agent that would work for you and in your best interest.